Monday, March 9, 2015

Respecting Boundaries, Respecting Privacy

Boundaries, People, Boundaries.

Boundaries are healthy.

You can't just go willy-nilly wherever you feel like.

I'm talking about this story:

http://www.cnn.com/2015/03/07/living/feat-planet-fitness-transgender-member/index.html

Maybe next time I'm on a commercial airplane, I'll self-identify as a pilot. Do you think they'll let me in the cockpit?
 No.
Why not?
Because I'm NOT a pilot.
Would that be safe if I just marched into the cockpit?
No, even though I'm harmless.

Maybe when I go to England, I'll just wander into the private quarters of a castle because I feel like a princess.
Do you think that will be allowed?? Ha.

Then one day I'll self-identify as a surgeon and stroll into an operating room without scrubbing away all the germs. Never mind that I've never taken an anatomy class in my life.
Is that okay?
No.
Why not?
It puts the patient at risk.

I mean, I've worked in offices where I needed security badges because of confidential information that I worked with. There were no naked people, open wounds, or navigational equipment.
So why is it okay to let anyone into a place where people are naked and vulnerable???
It's not.
Some actions are simply not appropriate.



Wednesday, January 7, 2015

Things are Heavy

I have a lot of things, which my friends moved and I moved. I am renting a room for the time being. I am a roommate People are nice.

I need to shed more things and be free of the burden things create.

Some people can't believe the things I left behind or gave up. I still have plenty of things left.

How can you soar when you're weighed down by things?

You can't.

Right now a child is in the house visiting his parent and making some noise. There's life in this house. If it's too noisy I can close the door to my room, but life is nice.


Monday, December 22, 2014

Asking for Help - 2

The Holy Spirit is moving people. I have rec'd some help, and have some options now that I didn't have a day or two ago. Not only are people ministering to me with offers of this and that, but in doing so they are ministering to my discouraged heart. The Light of Christ is shining through people.
Yes, Mary & Joseph had lodging issues. They sure didn't plan to relocate to Egypt I bet.

Father's homily yesterday was one I needed to hear. I told him so on the way out.


Saturday, December 20, 2014

Asking for Help - Part I


Today I sent out an email to a list of people and friends in my real life asking if they can help me find a place to live. If I were braver, I would ask if I can live with them. I hope they can read between the lines.

Also, I caught up reading Becky's blog at http://homegreathome.blogspot.com. I should have checked it earlier because there is a mom and a family who needs prayers and practical help too.

In response to to my previous post, I rec'd the comment way below (in blue text) from Anonymous about sending money to San Felipe de Neri Parish; 2005 North Plaza NW, Albuquerque, NM 87104 It's not typical of fund-raising efforts and I doubt it is official church communication, but it came from someone who cares about this church.
Funny, because there are only two or three people who know my real name connected to this blog. None of them are from New Mexico.
I don't think any of them know of my connection to Albuquerque.
I have visited this church below. It has a long great and great history. I've spent several Christmas Eves celebrating in and around this church.
I have taken photographs of this church. It's in the Old Town part of Albuquerque.
In fact I feel a connection to this church and other parishes and places in that city.

So if you feel like helping out some parishes and an abbey, send money to
San Felipe de Neri Parish; 2005 North Plaza NW, Albuquerque, NM 87104mailing address: PO Box 7007, Albuquerque, NM 87194

or

San Martin Roman Catholic Church
http://sanmartinchurch.org
8321 Camino San Martin SWAlbuquerque, NM 87121(505) 836-4676
I have attended Mass here. 

or 

Our Lady of the Most Holy Rosary5415 Fortuna RoadAlbuquerque, NM 87105
Celebrated a number of Christmases at this parish. My parents were very active in this church. My mother's wake and funeral Mass was at this church. The love and PRACTICAL help of the people of his parish when my mother died was so very, very great and beautiful.

or

The Norbertine Community in New Mexico
Santa Maria de la Vid Abbey
http://www.norbertinecommunity.org/our-story.html
The Norbert Community serves the Our Lady of the Most Holy Rosary.
5825 Coors Blvd, SW
Albuquerque, NM 87121-6700
The Abbot of the Abbey is Right Reverend Joel. He was the pastor of Holy Rosary. I remember one of his Christmas day homilies about evil and the name HEROD. I wish I took notes. Fr. Joel also offered a great big hug the Christmas right after my mother died. I cried through the entire Mass that Christmas. As people were leaving Mass and treating Father, I said to him, "It feels more like Good Friday than Christmas"
Fr. Joel said, "It's [grief] just so raw."
That was the right thing to say.

Maybe I'll write more about Holy Rosary parish and its people another time. I'm glad the Norbertines have an Abbey now. I would like to visit it sometime.

Finally,
if you'd like to send me money, um, I guess just email me. lenadpaul@gmail.com




Anonymous Anonymous said...

I want MONEY!!!

(and working families are who I want it from!!!)


San Felipe de Neri Parish; 2005 North Plaza NW, Albuquerque, NM 87104

mailing address: PO Box 7007, Albuquerque, NM 87194

Pastor: Rev. Dennis Garcia

Deacons: Jose Lucero, Maurice Menke, Tom Perez, James Carabajal

Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)

Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
I want MONEY!!!

(and working families are who I want it from!!!)


San Felipe de Neri Parish; 2005 North Plaza NW, Albuquerque, NM 87104

mailing address: PO Box 7007, Albuquerque, NM 87194

Pastor: Rev. Dennis Garcia

Deacons: Jose Lucero, Maurice Menke, Tom Perez, James Carabajal

Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)

Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
I want MONEY!!!
(and working families are who I want it from!!!)


San Felipe de Neri Parish; 2005 North Plaza NW, Albuquerque, NM 87104

mailing address: PO Box 7007, Albuquerque, NM 87194

Pastor: Rev. Dennis Garcia

Deacons: Jose Lucero, Maurice Menke, Tom Perez, James Carabajal

Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)

Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
(and working families are who I want it from!!!)

San Felipe de Neri Parish; 2005 North Plaza NW, Albuquerque, NM 87104

mailing address: PO Box 7007, Albuquerque, NM 87194

Pastor: Rev. Dennis Garcia

Deacons: Jose Lucero, Maurice Menke, Tom Perez, James Carabajal

Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)

Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
San Felipe de Neri Parish; 2005 North Plaza NW, Albuquerque, NM 87104

mailing address: PO Box 7007, Albuquerque, NM 87194

Pastor: Rev. Dennis Garcia

Deacons: Jose Lucero, Maurice Menke, Tom Perez, James Carabajal

Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)

Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
San Felipe de Neri Parish; 2005 North Plaza NW, Albuquerque, NM 87104
mailing address: PO Box 7007, Albuquerque, NM 87194

Pastor: Rev. Dennis Garcia

Deacons: Jose Lucero, Maurice Menke, Tom Perez, James Carabajal

Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)

Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
mailing address: PO Box 7007, Albuquerque, NM 87194
Pastor: Rev. Dennis Garcia

Deacons: Jose Lucero, Maurice Menke, Tom Perez, James Carabajal

Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)

Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
Pastor: Rev. Dennis Garcia
Deacons: Jose Lucero, Maurice Menke, Tom Perez, James Carabajal

Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)

Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
Deacons: Jose Lucero, Maurice Menke, Tom Perez, James Carabajal
Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)

Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
Religious education: Melany Gallegos, Director
School: Jennifer Mason, Principal
Museum and Gift Shop: Steve Torres Manager (convent bookstore on-site)
Stewardship Report:

November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
Stewardship Report:
November 1 & 2, 2014

Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
November 1 & 2, 2014
Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192

Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
Sunday envelopes: $6,906.50
Sunday loose: $909.72
$7816.22
Envelopes used: 321
Building fund: $1,009.00
All Saints Day: $1,037.00
All Souls Day: $565.00
St. Vincent De Paul: $1,843.00
Other: $192
Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:

Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
Renovation Pledge/Annual Catholic Appeal:
Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00

Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
Our Parish Goal is $80,000 to pay on our debt for the renovation project.
Total pledged: $71,285.14
Total paid: $54,795.14
Pledge balance: $16,490.00
Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245
Families: (active registered) 1,200
Total number of pledges: 245


Saturday, November 22, 2014

Giving with Love

I have received some charity of late.

Some people give to me without conditions, without emotional blackmail, without disgust, without judgement. These are some friends, some charitable organizations, some volunteers, some social workers.

I say thank you a lot.

Those who say they love me (we share genetic material), give with conditions, with emotional and verbal abuse, with judgement if they give at all. They hurt my heart.

I say thank you a lot.

I write thank you notes.

I think the people in the first group are the ones who really love me even if they don't always know me.

I cry a lot. I cry when people are nice and compassionate. I cry when family members are mean.

And some people just don't want to deal with me and my problems. We stopped saying anything to each other.


Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Not Sure


  • Not sure if the election results are a good thing or a bad thing.
  • Not sure if I'll find a place to live.
  • Kind of feel stupid for getting rid of car, but then again I couldn't afford the repairs.
  • Not sure of anything.
  • What scares me is that God allows evil to happen and for bad things to happen to good people. 

Sunday, October 12, 2014

What's the Message?

I wonder what God is trying to tell me. I know this: I can't be a superwoman. I can't bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan in the career woman way. Was that a Charlie perfume commercial? I can't sustain and support myself by myself. I need to rely on God and others for a little help or big help.

Life is overwhelming. I need some joy and fun. And prayers.

And if God would just write down what I am suppose to do with my limitations and weaknesses and sinus infection, I would appreciate it.